One of the most common themes that comes up with myself and my clients is the issue of being hard on ourselves on our health and fitness journey. We often think we need to be more strict, more intense, more perfect or more committed in order to realize our fitness goals. So we get frustrated with ourselves for missed workouts, we berate ourselves for less than optimal food choices and we unknowingly create more stress and shame than is actually helpful.
Motivation; it's the holy grail of a regular exercise routine, right? Wrong! Wishing that we were more motivated to workout or feeling frustrated that others are just more motivated than we are is a waste of our time and energy.
When I first met my husband, he was fresh off his first trip to the Olympics as a downhill ski racer. It was 2006 and we were both in our early twenties. At that point in time we both had no idea that he would race in three more Olympic games, and that we would be preparing for those games together as a team.
Before living through the past two years, I certainly took my mental health for granted. I posted quotes about positive thinking on the regular, and I generally lived my life with a glass half full attitude. I don't think there is anything wrong with this type of thinking. But it does miss the mark when it comes to improving outcomes for anyone who has experienced a mental health challenge.