Lots of moms are feeling the pressure from all sides. And a big part of the pressure is US wanting to do it all, to feel as capable as we were before our babies came along. But there's also an often unspoken, insidious belief that we should be able to keep all the balls in the air and say yes to everyone's requests, like a good, caring person.
I started to question my beliefs about how I should be showing up in my new role as mother-wife-business owner-friend-human. Is this belief of needing to keep all the balls in the air stemming from an internal place? Or is this a societal belief?
Should I be asking for more help? How do I even begin to do that when it's a new and foreign skill I've yet to master?
When I first began this blog in 2014 as a place to share my healthy eating and exercise insights, I never imagined that healing would become a main theme in my work. I'd always felt that exercise was a fabulous instigator for personal growth, but healing? In 2014 I didn't have much to heal from so it wasn't a topic that was on my personal or professional horizon when I began to write and share my life on social media. But sometimes life has plans that take us down a path we would never expect.
One of the most common themes that comes up with myself and my clients is the issue of being hard on ourselves on our health and fitness journey. We often think we need to be more strict, more intense, more perfect or more committed in order to realize our fitness goals. So we get frustrated with ourselves for missed workouts, we berate ourselves for less than optimal food choices and we unknowingly create more stress and shame than is actually helpful.